How to be better than the former?
Sometimes in the relationship of a man and a woman, the shadow of a past life can flash. Many girls in this situation are thinking about how to be better than the former. The presence of the former shadow causes many different sensations, but the most important of them is jealousy. We must not forget that jealousy kills a relationship. Jealousy for past relationships is one of the most destructive. After all, each of the partners has behind his back baggage of life experience. Do not delve into your partner's past life. Live in the present and boldly with love look to the future of your relationship!
Waiting for you new happiness
Remember that past, especially pleasant and joyful moments of life, can not just in an instant take and evaporate from our memory! At the beginning of your relationship, be prepared for the fact that for some period of time your partner will still be mentally returning to his former relationship. Be wiser. If you notice that he still recalls past relationships, try to be patient. Yes, it does say that he was serious about her and loved her very much, but it does not at all indicate that he loves you less.Believe me, not too much time will pass, and he will gradually forget about her. His memory will acquire new feelings, experiences, moments from your personal history together, and they will crowd out the old past.
If he compares you with the former, talk to him about it, say that such conversations are unpleasant to you and you need to stop them.
Do not remind him of his past life, do not provoke, do not get rid of wounds. Fill your life with pleasures, joy, happiness, warmth, comfort, novelty, love!
Appreciate and love yourself
Do not look for a way to be better than the former. Stay by yourself, because if he chose you, it means that he needs you, and not an improved copy of the ex-girlfriend. It is a mistake to think that you can be closer to him if you become better than her. He finished past relationships, now in his life and in his heart the main place belongs only to you. And the way your happy life together will be built depends only on you two. Nothing positive jealous attitude to the "former" will not bring. On the contrary, a reminder about it can cause irritation of your partner and conflict in the relationship.Therefore, to compare yourself with the former is stupid! Also, raising the topic of the former, you may not notice how some seemingly innocent memories of your partner can hurt your self-esteem, lead you to samoedstvo, to insecurity, lower your self-esteem, spoil your mood, suppress your sense of resentment . Think about it before starting a conversation about past life. Well, if it cannot be avoided, try to change the topic of conversation that is unpleasant to you from your partner unnoticed by the partner.
Aptly accept his past
Of course, it is difficult, he has children from a previous marriage. In this case, you just need to accept the fact that children, as a small invisible thread, will forever tie your soul mate to the former. You must find the right place for them in your life, thereby worthily showing your man that you do not reproach him in his past life, that you recognize his right to communicate with children, to his care for them, that you value and respect his choice. . Humble yourselves and accept them. Remember that this does not mean that he will still belong to the former. In a wisely constructed relationship, there is always a clear line between permissible and unlawful.
Do not look for a dirty trick in a relationship
If your partner does not recall past life, do not look for this trick. After all, most likely, he really sincerely and infinitely loves you, so that in his thoughts there is simply no room for memories of the former. Moreover, do not dig into his past, asking common friends or relatives. He obviously does not like all this when he finds out. Be prudent. Trust your partner, love him. With gratitude, treat the past of your second half, because what you experienced allowed him to become what you loved him.
Take care of your happiness. Everything depends on you. Do not look back in the past, live in the present, make plans for the future!