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Feminine woman or what you need for happiness
What is femininity?
Of course, this is the basis of happiness and the values of women. Only a feminine woman can be happy, and only with a feminine woman can a happy man be. And the value of such a woman is great not only for men, but also for the world as a whole, because such a woman is able to inspire men to great accomplishments, raise harmonious children and influence life, and sometimes even the course of history.
The image of femininity, as a set of dolls - each of them is equally important, because each is part of a complete image. If you lose at least one, and integrity is broken, even if at first glance it is imperceptible.
Our first matryoshka - appearance. A real woman should be able to dress beautifully, own questions of style and look so to be pleasing to the eye. And you need to look not just beautiful, but it is FEMININE.
Therefore, a real woman prefers feminine clothes - I mean dresses and skirts. Yes, it is in a dress that a woman looks the most harmonious, because it corresponds to her nature. It is not interesting to a man to see his likeness in a woman, and a woman in pants almost always causes subconscious aggression in a man as a competitor claiming his place. A woman in a dress gives rise to other feelings, because her appearance carries other information - here she does not compete, but complements, does not select, but introduces. And it introduces its female organic, from which a man wants to be a man.
But this is the external plan, the physics of femininity. Next comes metaphysics, the energy of femininity, that which is impossible to touch, only to feel, that without which all this, even if polished to a shine, fetish, does not liven up.
The inner dimension of femininity is an attitude towards men.
And although feminists now throw stones at me, still the main thing in a woman’s life is a man (most importantly, after herself, of course). Any woman should be aware of this. A woman cannot be happy without revealing her femininity, and the value of femininity as such is determined only by a man, just as the value of masculinity is determined by a woman.
My favorite writer and psychologist Anatoly Nekrasov wrote that a person can fully unleash his spiritual and creative potential only in a pair. It really is. Men and women in their endless spiritual rhythm must have counter movement on the other side of the swing, otherwise the rhythm itself will not take place.
But we are not always aware that for balance and harmony in that swing flight, the pressure force on both sides should be equivalent - a man responds with masculinity, nobility, and dedication only to the radiance of femininity. It is here that the law of reflection works 100%: the higher the level of femininity in a woman is, the better is the man next to her; the deeper her awareness of her female destiny, the higher the rise and achievements of her man. And if a woman wants a quality relationship in a couple, then she should react exclusively to a man as a woman.
What does this mean, let's see.
The attitude of women to men is based on respect.
A feminine woman always respects a man. Moreover, this respect must be a priori, in advance, only because it is a man in front of her, no matter what his grade, rank or status. Respect for women for men is her indicator of self-respect.
I often hear from women that they have nothing to respect their husbands for — well, they did not justify their hopes, they did not give them fabulous happiness. Why, even a banal shelf do not want to hang. So, about fairy tales - ultimatums of the type "become first fit, then begin to respect" do not work. Here, the opposite is true - if we want to receive the best from life, we must give it the best first.
Moreover, a woman can truly respect her husband only if she is able to respect the representatives of the opposite sex as a whole. That is, you need to love and respect men in principle, without sharing - this one is worthy, and that one is not worthy. Only then do the faces of femininity reveal in you, and only then can you truly love and respect a single man.
And to disappointed wives, I propose to search in their companions for qualities worthy of respect, and begin to respect at least for them, even if there are few of them. Remember, because once you of your own desire turned out to be with your husbands in the registry office, and without respecting them, you do not respect yourself first of all.
The attitude of women to men is based on trust.
A feminine woman is always trusted with a man. She will never tell him how to nail a nail or twist a light bulb.And even more so she will not do it for him. Also, she will not indicate where and how to earn money, citing as an example her brother, matchmaker, neighbor ...
She does not do this because she trusts her man, trusts his ability to do it himself, according to her own understanding. When the level of femininity in a woman is high enough, she never doubts the abilities of a man. And no doubt, because she is confident in her feminine value. Here, the relationship is the most direct - it is a woman who knows how to give (and give in advance) trust in her man, is of particular value to him, and a man will always strive to justify such trust.
At the level of energy, a woman’s confidence opens the floodgates of male self-confidence - he begins to believe in himself, he begins to feel capable, he begins to show the best result. And the belief in yourself can begin with the most insignificant event.
My friend, her sixteen-year-old son, believed in himself, after having independently issued his passport. It was the fact that his mother did not lead him by the hand, but TRUST his life to him, and he did everything himself, elevated him in his own eyes so that he felt like a real man.
The man has a desire to be the master in his home and in his family, only when he feels that the woman believes in his ability to do the MOST. If a woman begins to take up men's affairs, flavoring all this with dissatisfaction and criticism, since her husband is “useless”, or God forbid, to compete with him on the principle of “better, higher, stronger”, she blocks the flow of luck to him. She herself begins to show masculinity, so the man next to her dies like a man.
Remember, the "uselessness" of your companion is a reflection of your female failure. The higher your value - the more pronounced the partner’s abilities, the stronger your confidence in him - the greater his desire to decorate your life.
The attitude of a woman to a man is based on the ability to inspire.
And how can a woman inspire a man? Just admiring them. The rapture is that magic wand that even a monster turns into a prince. Moreover, admiration for a man is necessary in everything, even in trifles. And if he gets women's enthusiasm for the bread he has bought, there will always be a desire in him to do this always, and not only with the bread, but also with the rest of the products.
It is the admiration of a woman that encourages a man to show his true masculinity.And the true masculinity of a man is manifested in his service to a woman. Therefore, a man feels great gratitude when a woman admires him, because it is thanks to her admiration that he feels himself a knight, and in the manifestation of his chivalry realizes the male nature.
To be a knight is the inescapable and eternal craving of all men. A man personally needs very little for himself. Everything he does, he does for a woman. Even the external attributes of his coolness are only peacock plumage, which he reveals again with the aim of impressing the beautiful floor. And if he receives the enthusiasm and approval of a woman about his actions, he is inspired by great accomplishments. It is the admiration of a woman that enhances the best qualities in him.
If a woman focuses her attention on the best qualities of a man, then she awakens in him the desire to grow further, in order to strengthen her uniqueness in the eyes of a woman. On the contrary, fixing herself on negative qualities, a woman destroys masculinity in a man. And at the level of energy, the program of its annihilation works, and, dying as a man, your companion may even die, if he does not leave you.
Here the men’s fear of strong women is absolutely justified. How can they, the poor, not tremble, for they come closer, these Amazons will pass through them with the tracks of their hypertrophied masculinity. Therefore, a courageous man will never tolerate a courageous woman next to him, because, I repeat, he is not interested in a man like him.
A man appreciates a woman not for her career achievements, not for a professor’s rank and not for the amount of money earned. And not that all this would be forbidden to a feminine woman, no, but all these qualities are secondary in the eyes of men. For him, the ability of a woman to inspire him, to believe in him, to reveal the best in him is much more valuable, so that it is better to give her the same gift.
Karl Jung very accurately noted in his time:
if a woman starts cultivating masculine qualities in herself and takes up men's affairs, she causes deep damage to her feminine nature. Of course, at that time, the concept of male and female affairs was somewhat different. Nowadays, these boundaries are erased, and a woman can be seen even in the presidential chair.
But no matter what a woman does, she should always put the disclosure of her femininity in the first place - this is more important for her than to make a career or make money.Moreover, the men themselves will bring everything to the feminine woman and they will give everything themselves.
Money is a man's energy. As the saying goes, god of gods, and Caesar what is Caesar's.
Men should take care of replenishing the treasury, and women's work should create worlds.
And in conclusion I want to say: a woman with her energy can create any magic - she can create wonderful relationships in a couple, she can bring her man to the throne of any achievements, she can fill all plans of her being with wealth.
Femininity is the very cup of the Grail that every man is looking for in a woman, since it is she who can give the drinker a sip, whatever he wishes.
But this is possible only when a woman sees in her man a real man, and not a fictional image, when she accepts him as he is, with all the advantages and disadvantages.
Acceptance is the first facet of femininity, because acceptance is the basis of female respect, trust and the ability to inspire a man, it is based on acceptance that a woman’s ability to treat a man as a god and creator is based.
If a woman, entering into a relationship, hopes to change a man, then she already destroys his manliness, because she treats him as a child who needs to be rehabilitated.
It is impossible to re-educate an adult man, he is not a child who is changing all the time, showing new character traits and under the influence of parents can change in the direction they need.
An adult man is already a perfect person. It is impossible to change it - it can only be inspired for new achievements.